Are the men not usually involved in the wedding planning?

So I’m getting married to my beautiful fiancé later this year. I’ve been super involved in the planning and getting as much done as possible. I found the venue, I found our photographer, signed us up for tons of wedding expos and stuff, got swatches ordered to see what colors we like. (Made multiple emails) well her family is confused as heck because of how involved I am. When she talks to her married friends they’re also surprised. So is it not common? It kinda gets annoying because the husbands always say, “she roped you into it didn’t she” or “I’m sorry that sucks” like what do you mean??? It’s also my wedding. Our wedding not just hers.