I'm tired of all of my dates disappearing after sex.

Hey Reddit, I (25M) have limited dating/sex experience, having only lost my virginity last year. Lately, after a few experiences I’ve been feeling insecure about it and wondering if my lack of experience is pushing people away.

I’m generally considered attractive (fit, pretty face), and I don’t have trouble finding dates. I’ve gone on a few with guys, and they’ve all seemed to go well—some even leading to sex. But after that, the guys just lost interest or straight up disappear. It’s confusing because they usually initiated things first, and we’d talked about wanting a relationship

Most of these dates involved conversations about our intentions and wanting to be in a relationship, and we both expressed interest in building something stable, if things worked out. So how does that align with them vanishing after sex?

Ghosting is obviously common in the dating world, especially with online apps, but I thought we were on the same page so what gives?. I’m starting to wonder if I am the problem. Maybe my inexperience or lack of skill in bed is turning them off, maybe me having sex with them makes me seem desperate, or maybe something else about me is the issue (I’m self-conscious about my slightly saggy butt maybe that's it?). I just wish they’d communicate why they disappear instead of leaving me wondering.

Am I overthinking this, or is there something I’m missing? Should I just chalk it up to bad luck?

Sorry for ranting, I just have noone else to talk to about this that would understand me.